Hollow

25 - cis - she/her/hers or they/them/theirs
Queer, ace, survivor.

I suffer from PTSD, depression and anxiety, as well as several bone diseases that cause me chronic pain and disfigurement.
I am a survivor of abusive relationships and rape.

This whole blog has a trigger warning as I write about my experiences attempting to recover from what I can and live with what I can't.

minorfour:

This made my heart smil

(via lgbtgivesmehope)

nonbinarypunk:

There ARE laws against this. It’s called rape by deception or fraudulent rape and basically, it’s anytime the conditions of your consent are compromised. In a situation like this, you consented to protected sex. By having sex in a way you did not consent to, a crime WAS committed and he could be charged if any physical effects like pregnancy or STD occurred. Remember, ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY YOU DON’T CONSENT TO IS RAPE. 
If a guy does this, it’s rape. Call the cops. Ruin his life since he has no problem risking yours. Make him fucking learn. Rapists belong in jail. Rape by deception is rape, not a funny “meme”. 

nonbinarypunk:

There ARE laws against this. It’s called rape by deception or fraudulent rape and basically, it’s anytime the conditions of your consent are compromised. In a situation like this, you consented to protected sex. By having sex in a way you did not consent to, a crime WAS committed and he could be charged if any physical effects like pregnancy or STD occurred. Remember, ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY YOU DON’T CONSENT TO IS RAPE. 

If a guy does this, it’s rape. Call the cops. Ruin his life since he has no problem risking yours. Make him fucking learn. Rapists belong in jail. Rape by deception is rape, not a funny “meme”. 

(Source: 2pacmadaddy, via nomorewaterthefirenexttime)

Tw animal death

I had a photoshoot today and we finished at about 2.30 in the morning. I’m super tired but I can’t sleep now because on the way home I found a cat that had been killed by a car.
It was already dead when I pulled over but it was obviously a well cared for pet and I couldn’t do anything for it.

Now I can’t stop thinking about it and how awful it was when one of my foster cats went missing.
I couldn’t bear to lose my babies, even thinking about it makes me feel like I’m going to lose my mind.

I gave my kitties anotnner when I got home,and theyre

Sleep remedies

swim-for-brighter-times:

swim-for-brighter-times:

About to try yet another sleep remedy to help me stay asleep.
My therapist is almost out of ideas.

Wishing for luck and a full nights sleep!

I’m still awake.

It’s been nearly 2.5 hours and I’m still awake.

I guess I’m out of ideas.

I know it sounds dumb, but keeping your head cold works well for getting to sleep and getting deeper sleep.
Your whole body can be cold, or you can bundle up but its only the top of your head that needs to be cold. I always leave the window open in winter and pile the blankets on because it helps.

Might help or help other things work. Good luck babe.

Sleep remedies

swim-for-brighter-times:

swim-for-brighter-times:

About to try yet another sleep remedy to help me stay asleep.
My therapist is almost out of ideas.

Wishing for luck and a full nights sleep!

I’m still awake.

It’s been nearly 2.5 hours and I’m still awake.

I guess I’m out of ideas.

“Rather than fighting for every woman’s right to feel beautiful, I would like to see the return of a kind of feminism that tells women and girls everywhere that maybe it’s all right not to be pretty and perfectly well behaved. That maybe women who are plain, or large, or old, or differently abled, or who simply don’t give a damn what they look like because they’re too busy saving the world or rearranging their sock drawer, have as much right to take up space as anyone else.

I think if we want to take care of the next generation of girls we should reassure them that power, strength and character are more important than beauty and always will be, and that even if they aren’t thin and pretty, they are still worthy of respect. That feeling is the birthright of men everywhere. It’s about time we claimed it for ourselves.”

F I G H T B A C K !

cannon-fannon:

itsliquey:

As suggested by my friend @cannon-fannon I am posting this experience I had in a bar just over a year ago.

I am a musician, and part of that involves doing photo-shoots for press releases etc. We chose to shoot our idea at a classy bar in town that had beautiful decor and we dressed in quite…

Seriously. This is ridiculous. I hate the way men feel entitled to women’s bodies. “We thought you were the entertainment”???? Right because a girl can’t dress nicely UNLESS it’s for a male gaze. Fuck off. If I dress sexily it’s for me bub. Not you. Im so super proud of
itsliquey
of standing up for herself and I completely agree that we should stand up for ourselves more IF IT IS SAFE TO DO SO. Because sometimes we can’t or shouldn’t because it’s not safe. And stories like this make me happy because sometime we have a win.

Fuck entitled men!

sourcedumal:

Its ok to be a victim.

I am really tired of this alpha mentality of “stop being a victim” bullshit we crank out.

It. Is. Absofuckinlutely OKAY TO BE A VICTIM

Especially in a system that not only rewards abusers, but often put those abisers in positions of power

Victims have the right to cope in their own fashion, on their own time.

(via webelieveyou)

Oh and since I haven’t had a chance to chat to any of you guys I’ll post this real quick.

I’m a disabled survivor of rape and abusive relationships, I’ve got PTSD, bone diseases and chronic pain. I’m grey-ace, queer and currently doing some work as a findom/pro-domme/cam girl online. 
Don’t talk to me if you’re going to tell me any of that isn’t ok.

Don’t talk to me and unfollow me straight away if you think racism, transmisogyny, ableism, whorephobia or any of that bigoted, oppressive shit is excusable.

Don’t talk to me trying to blame victims. Don’t talk to me excusing pedophiles or other abusers. Don’t talk to me about your thoughts on sex work or sex workers unless you are one because they’re my friends and they’re better than you. Don’t talk to me about anti-choice or ‘embryonic rights’, don’t talk to me about eugenics.

Don’t come to me trying to tell me about reverse racism or misandry or fucking anything like that. I honestly have more time for the people who talk about alien abductions because at least their stories about shit that isn’t real are entertaining.

Do talk to me if you need a friend.
And if you’re a survivor who needs support, if you’re struggling with mental illness, flashbacks, a shitty day or living with disability and want to chat to someone about it, I’m here if you want and you’re always welcome to hit me up.

Why?

I try to make this place I have here a safe space. 

If you need me to tag anything for your blacklist, let me know. If you see me re-blogging problematic stuff, let me know. I don’t know everything, sometimes I’m going to need to be called out. As well as everything else I’m a white, cis woman living in an affluent country so I’m going to get shit wrong some times, but I do try, and I will make an effort.

So yeah, hi. I’m Hollow.